The People We Used to Be

“I think we are well-advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not. Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 a.m. of a bad […]

The Non-Binary Nature of Sex

Dr. Anne Fausto-Sterling, professor of biology and gender studies, has been writing about the non-binary nature of sex for a long time. Now is a good time to revisit her work. She writes about it this week in the New York Times: “Two sexes have […]

On the Value of Discomfort

“Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” Psychologist Susan David on the value of so-called “negative” emotions.

Trauma, Self Blame, Power, & Depression

This conundrum is often the log jam that gets in the way of emotional healing: “When you’re a child, you have very little power to change your environment. You can’t move away, or force somebody to stop hurting you. So, you have two choices. You […]

The Dark Side of Positivity

In our culture of mandatory happiness, wise words from Svend Brinkmann, author of the Danish bestseller Stand Firm: Resisting the Self-Improvement Craze: “I believe our thoughts and emotions should mirror the world. When something bad happens, we should be allowed to have negative thoughts and […]